I started my natural hair journey in the middle of April during the year 2013. Now, unlike most Naturalistas who started because they had received an epiphany and wanted to get in touch with their inner self, with me it was purely a case of curiosity. I wanted to know if I have curly hair or if it was nappy. Was it that soft kind of natural or was it tougher than Nigerian hair. So when I decided that I am not going for a relaxer, my natural hair had started sprouting out of my scalp and it excited me! I wanted to keep this kind of excitement around. *The picture I have inserted at the top is one where I had not yet started my natural hair journey. Just to show you the length and texture*
During my hair journey, my hair has obviously changed drastically. If you know me personally, you’ll know that I have always had thick, jet black, “longer than your average black South African girl’s” hair. The root of these claims stem from most of your ignorant comments like “wow your hair is so long, how did you get it this long” or “guuurl is that a weave?” so this is where I realised that I cannot count myself in the hair struggle. I’m “priveledged”. So over the years I kept getting these kind of reactions and decided to ask my mother why. WHY AM I GETTING ASKED THESE THIIIINGS *Juju voice* I figured that since her hair reached mid- back length and she was a product of a Sotho man and Swati woman (FULL BLACK, AS AFRICAN AS THEY COME), her hair length must have also raised some eyebrows so then I asked her what I should say because people were seriously starting to make me feel like I was cheating some system. Like that kid who has the memo to a test but won’t share it with the other children. She just said “Tell them its genetics” and I just though “great.” they already hate me for not being a part of the hair struggle, now I make it worse by telling them that their struggle is their parents fault lol….As you may have guessed, I used that response, it did not sit well with the others and they continued to stare at my hair like it would scream out the answers to why it looks the way it does.
When I started school, at the age of 6, my parents enrolled me in a predominantly white Primary School. My best friend turned out to be white. It was fun. Apart from me being mistaken for the child of the help or people assuming it was a Brangelina type of setup when we were in public places, it was just like any normal friendship. We got all the awkward stuff out the way quickly. Awkward stuff as in ” Your hair… you put oil in it? Can I touch it, what do you wash it with? Why does smoke come out when you blow dry it?” haha all these questions got asked ONCE and were answered ONCE and we moved on. It was understandable. completely. She was curious and who would be a more fitting teacher than myself? So I taught her.
Fast- forward to two days ago. My hair is in a high bun like in the above image, But the ends of my hair are more curly than they are wavy. So picture the first picture in the post, that hair in a high bun with ends that curly. cool. Im sitting on a chair right and this girl… I just see her hand extending towards my hair. Without even thinking, I slapped her hand away. I don’t know man; I can’t explain it but its an unwritten rule, you DO NOT TOUCH A BLACK GIRL’S HAIR! And I mean she is black. She should flippen know this man! I was so annoyed. I told her not to try something like that without asking. I mean, really. Who goes around shoving their hands in peoples hair!? There are kinks and coils in there, if not that, there are tracks in there. It’s a fragile set up and the last thing I need is you reaching for a tissue to wipe your hands after touching it, making me feel like my hair is dirty or something argh. So anyway, she knows now. But the point is, she should have known.
Among other things that my Natural hair journey has revealed, I have become conscious of the fact that not many sisters know about natural hair. As much as they know that natural hair is what happens when you stop putting chemicals in your hair, many do not know much more than that. * Just to get this out of the way : TO ALL THE GIRLS WHO STILL GET THEIR MONTHLY RELAXER,THE HAIR THAT YOU SEE AFTER TAKING BRAIDS OUT IS NOT YOUR NATURAL HAIR TEXTURE, ITS JUST YOUR RELAXED HAIR WHICH HAS UNDERGONE A LONG ASS PROTECTIVE STYLE AND NOW LOOKS WAVY, ITS STILL CHEMICALLY TREATED. MAJORITY OF IT (96%) SO STOP TAGGING “all natural” IN YOUR PICS PLEASE, NATURALISTAS WORK TOO HARD TO HAVE YOU COME HERE AND SAY IGNORANT SHIT LIKE THAT, CAUSING CONFUSION AMONG EVERYONE*
So as I was still saying. Where I am from, ignorance is in abundance about natural hair. I am not at all dispersing any kind of propaganda but 1 thing I will say is that the natural hair community should stop passing judgement at other Naturalistas as well as towards ignorant black women. All the confusion is due to a significant lack of knowledge and wherever we can educate, let us, instead of passing comments like “well if you stopped putting on that creamy crack on your head…”. Let us understand freedom of choice please lol.
On a serious note though, there are more advantages than disadvantages to going natural (IN MY OPINION WHICH IS FACT 🙂 ) such as:
1. YOUR HAIR GROWS THICKER
2. YOUR HAIR GROWS LONGER
3. YOUR HAIR GETS STRONGER
4. YOUR HAIR GETS HEALTHIER
5. NATURAL HAIR CAUSES YOUR INNER BEAUTY TO SHINE THROUGH
6. YOU CHANNEL YOUR INNER LAUREN HILL
7. YOU CAN WEAR PURPLE LIPSTICK AND LOOK SO SEXY
8. YOU CAN HAVE BUSHY EYEBROWS
9. YOU LEARN HOW TO DO YOUR OWN HAIR
10. YOU SAVE MONEY KINDA (IF YOU ARE NOT A PRODUCT JUNKIE)
11. YOU CAN CATCH YOUR MAN EASILY IF HE IS CHEATING
12. YOU CAN WEAR A FLOWER IN YOUR HAIR
13. YOU LEARN PATIENCE AND RESPONSIBILITY
14. YOU LEARN SELF- LOVE BECAUSE EVERYONE’S NATURAL HAIR IS DIFFERENT AND YOU ARE STUCK WITH YOUR HAIR TYPE TILL YOU DIE SO YOU NEED TO LEARN HOW TO LIVE WITH THAT AND MAKE IT WERK HONEY!
I hope you have enjoyed reading this post and let us all remember to educate ourselves more. Ignorance is far from bliss and being stupid is not cute honey! If you do not know something, find out more about it, if you have any questions to ask me, please leave a comment in the comments box, if you want to find out what products I use or if you want to know more about my hair regime, ask 🙂 ALSO, men stop saying shit like ” natural hair girls are better than girls who wear weaves” we do not need that kind of negative energy or ignorance in our lives! What we do with OUR hair is OUR business. Till my next post ladies, stay sexy, stay powerful and keep that self- love over 9000!!!!