The top 5 mistakes women should not make in 2015

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!

I’d like to start off by welcoming my new readers and subscribers. Also, welcome to the people whose new year’s resolution is to start reading again :)…..We have been waiting for you.

As we all know, a new year is upon us, now I am not one for  new year’s resolutions but I am constantly seeking out opportunities to learn, grow and evolve irrespective of what time of year it is. Since I started blogging, I have made a conscious effort to take note of habits or errors that need to get fixed and terminated in pursuit of greatness. Because my blog is about empowering women, I really would be doing you a disservice if I did not use my life and my experiences to help, encourage and comfort you.

I feel as though the year 2014  for me was a MAJOR learning curve. The reason why I say this is because I learnt how to make life happen instead of going with the motions and allowing life to happen to me. So because of this I learnt so much about life and people. My world expanded because I stopped living in the world as a victim and started surrounding myself with people who had a passion for life, for people and for winning. I discovered how beautiful self-love was because I gave myself a chance and  I achieved every single goal I had to achieve.

So because of the above, I can gladly say that 2014 was nothing short of successful for me. I believe it was successful because I would not change a thing about it. I played it the best way I could and I can now look into 2015 with determination and you should too because the fastest way you can kill yourself is by living in the past and never being good enough in your own eyes. So ultimately, the greatest mistake you can make this year is by not GETTING OVER YOUR MISTAKES. The reason why I say this is because there is no way in hell you can move forward while still looking back. We must focus on the future and take our mistakes as lessons learned, in order to GROW.

So without further adieu, here are the top 10 mistakes women should not make in 2015:

1. COMPROMISING

Making compromises, whether it is you standards, values or beliefs will always leave you feeling like you have been cheated somehow; and this feeling leads to you feeling victimized, Then you end up mad at the world because the world “is not fair”, when meanwhile YOU ARE THE ONE WHO DECIDED TO COMPROMISE in the first place. The standards, values and beliefs which are in place in your life are there for a reason. If you forget that reason, compromise on one and you’ll remember why you set it, quickly.

2. THINKING THAT YOU OWE PEOPLE EXPLANATIONS

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The minute you explain to people what is going on in your life, what you’re doing, who you’re loving, who you aren’t loving and why; you make yourself accountable to them. Therefore they will end if feeling as if they have a sense of entitlement to your life and how you run your life. So remember, before you talk to people about things, remember that you do not owe anyone anything and once you open your mouth and you blurt out your problems to someone, always remember that they will be in your face about these problems because you have now opened that gate and made them feel like they have a guest bedroom in the house of your life.

3. UNDERMINING YOUR POTENTIAL AND ABILITIES

One of my greatest lessons this year hands down…. realizing the amount of potential you actually have once you give yourself a chance.

4. NOT REALISING THAT CONFIDENCE IS A STATE OF MIND

No  one is born confident but EVERYONE HAS THE ABILITY TO BE CONFIDENT. Confidence is not directly proportional to anything materialistic, it does not even have a relationship to IQ. You will find the most beautiful people who are broken and the most intelligent people who are so painfully awkward in social situations. Confidence is simply a state of mind. If you decide to be confident, you will be confident. It really is as simple as that. If you don’t believe me, click here and watch the video.

5. THINKING THAT WE ARE A HOPELESS GENDER

Women are far from hopeless. We have so  much potential, and the wave of feminists which has emerged is amazing. It’s like we have been in this deep trance and slowly we are waking up. More and more women are becoming conscious of how much power we have, how many opportunities we have and that the glass ceiling is completely removable. We are now becoming conscious about injustices we face as women and instead of throwing a pity party, we are now sitting down and learning exactly how to use these injustices to our benefit. We are now leaning in and making do with what we have. The uneven playing field no longer threatens or discourages us, it fuels us. It is teaching us how to fight and we are winning.

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In 2015 I challenge us to become selfish. Selfish in a way where we make our lives about us. It seems conceited but when you think about it, at the end of the day, the only person who stands to be disappointed if you become a disappointment is yourself. Harvey Specter said, “Ever loved someone so much you would do anything for them? Yeah, well, make that someone yourself and do whatever the hell you want “.

I’d like to encourage us this year by reminding us that although it is a new year, it will still be the same old you if you harbour past hurts. I challenge us to step into this year with a refreshed mind and soul. Shed off those scabs because they remind you of things that have long passed . Develop a thick skin and STOP TAKING EVERYTHING SO PERSONALLY. That’s one way you can start living a happier life.

Lastly, if you want to win you have to try. You really cannot face the world covered in cling wrap. Step out into the world and feel. Feel the breeze when its easy, and feel the harshness of the wind when its tough and in the end you will be glad because the effort will have paid off. Giving is receiving, that is just how life works.

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3 Comments Add yours

  1. Alinah says:

    I certainly concur with the points raised here. And i’m guilty of undermining my potential and abilities. I tend to disbelieve in myself sometimes, but having read this really revived my inner being.

    This is profound Tshego

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  2. I agree with this list so much, and I have to keep these things in mind. Especially the idea of not compromising. I know that I cannot just settle into situations that aren’t making me happy.

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  3. Zethu says:

    I agree… you habe to know, and take care of yourself before you can do the same for others. Let YOU be priority number one … everything else will follow.

    Great Article Tshego.

    Liked by 1 person

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